An unapologetic force for change

Last week during a guided compassion meditation, I was told to bring to mind someone who needed compassion. My first thought was I need compassion right now. My second thought was Wow, that’s selfish.

Thankfully, I caught myself and recognized that I DID need some self-compassion at that moment otherwise I would not have been able to show up fully for everything I had to do that day.

There’s a lot of hard, sad stuff going on in the world right now. It’s easy to minimize and ignore my own pain and suffering in service of others…until it isn’t.

When I ignore or distract myself from the pain, it doesn’t usually just go away. It slowly derails all my good intentions and habits that keep me physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually well until I give it (or it forces me to give) the attention, love, and compassion it needs to heal.

And this is true for any challenge we face — stress, indigestion, fitful sleep, physical aches and pains, negative thoughts, loneliness. Every once in a while, the issue resolves itself. But usually, it needs something more.

As women who want to impact others and the world, we tend to put our needs last because there’s someone or something else that “needs us more.” This is not an effective strategy for long-term impact and well-being.

You are the most important person in your life because there would be no life — relationships, work, impact on the world — without you. You think it’s noble to sacrifice yourself for the greater good, but that’s actually selfish. When you don’t take care of yourself for long enough, at some point, someone else will have to take care of you.

So it’s not selfish to put myself first; it’s actually the most selfless thing I can do for myself, my loved ones, and the world. This is why I do what I do.

I help purpose-driven women find harmony between their desire to make a difference in the world and their need to nourish themselves without guilt so they can live well now and decades from now and continue to impact the world for decades to come.

My 6- or 12-week one-on-one coaching program, The Easeful Living Blueprint, is for women who were born to make an impact in the world but also want to enjoy their life while doing it.

Because being an unapologetic force for change starts from within. Would you do me a favor this week? Can you think of one woman (or more!) who could benefit from hearing this message? Would you share this post with her?
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We’re just getting started, and there’s so much yet to come. I’m happy you’re here.